Way Too Public Display Of Affection

April 23, 2009

I only see my boyfriend of 4 and a half years once a month. Being broke college students, we can’t afford to see each other as often as we might want to. However, when we do finally get to be together, despite the fact that I’ve missed him insanely, we still manage to make it all the way back to the privacy of our own room before showing each other any intense affection. This is why I don’t understand why couples who spend all day, every day together feel the need to have intense make out sessions…while full on groping one another…in the hallway…before parting ways for an hour long class. I mean, REALLY! I don’t know about the rest of you, but I didn’t pay my tuition here so that I could witness porn in the making.

There is no reason why I should have to pass couples dry humping in the hallways on my way to class. I wish I was joking when I said that just today I witnessed a boy and girl together outside a classroom, and not only were they engaging in an overly passionate kiss, he had one hand in her pants and the other up her shirt. Wow. I mean really, our campus isn’t that big, your dorm room is probably less than 100 feet away. Next time try and make it all the way there before beginning your foreplay.

Maybe I’m biased because I don’t have the option to constantly display my affection for my boyfriend, but I’m pretty sure that I would be embarrassed if he started getting all touchy feely while we were in public. I mean, call me old fashion, but you’re not only disrespecting the people around you by engaging in these things publicly, but you’re disrespecting yourselves. Do you really want people to think you’re cheap? That’s the very first thing that goes through my mind when I see that kind of disgusting display.

I’m not saying we need to constantly leave room for the holy ghost like were at some catholic middle school dance. I’m simply suggesting that we tone it down a bit. Hugs, kisses on the cheek, even quick pecks on the lips can all be perfectly acceptable. There’s nothing wrong with showing your significant other that you love him/her. However, there is something wrong with showing the public that you want to have you’re significant others children.

It’s basic respect! Common courtesy! Polite! Come on people, honestly? Keep it in your pants till you get someplace private.

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6 Responses to “Way Too Public Display Of Affection”

  1. thebeerphilosopher said

    “I mean, REALLY! I don’t know about the rest of you, but I didn’t pay my tuition here so that I could witness porn in the making.”

    Uh… I did.

    Anyway, if this was out in a public park where children were around, I’d have a problem. I don’t see many little children on campus — in fact, I can’t remember ever seeing any at all — so I’m okay with it. If they’re getting horizontal on the floor outside of your dorm room, you can ask them to leave so you don’t have to trip over their appendages or listen to their legato duet. But public space is public. They’re not intruding on your life anymore than they would be if they were talking loudly about the pros and cons of different sexual positions. Sure, they’re breaking a law (two, technically), but the function of the law is ostensibly to prevent any kind of moral corruption of the general populace. My morals, such as they are, aren’t in jeopardy because some guy has his girlfriend (or boyfriend) bent over a bench on the quad. It’s nothing I haven’t seen before, and certainly nothing outside the boundaries of my imagination. Raise an eyebrow? Maybe. Stomp around and claim that my rights are being violated? Certainly not.

  2. lenny25 said

    Well first of all, just to be fair..there is a day care thing on campus where little children are present, and they are brought to different parts of campus occasionally…I’m just saying…mostly because I want to prove you wrong.
    Second, I never claimed my rights were being violated. In fact, you’re the one who brought up the fact that it’s illegal. My point is that it’s disgusting and unacceptable anywhere, not just here.
    And for the record…I never stomped!

    • thebeerphilosopher said

      Well, like I said, if there were kids around, I’d have a problem. But since there weren’t — at least you didn’t say that there were — then there’s really nothing morally wrong with it that I can see.

      In reference to rights, I was referencing this:

      “There is no reason why I should have to pass couples dry humping in the hallways on my way to class.”

      You imply that you are being forced, against your will, to pass these couples, which is a violation of your rights. If I’m wrong here, and if you meant to imply something different, feel free to correct me.

      And I don’t believe for a second that you never stomped. Not for one second.

  3. Notelrac said

    “I mean, call me old fashion (sic)”

    You’re old fashion.

    “Do you really want people to think you’re cheap? That’s the very first thing that goes through my mind when I see that kind of disgusting display.”

    You’re projecting your morals onto other people. It is fallacious to conclude that other people will draw conclusions the same way you do.

    “My point is that it’s disgusting and unacceptable anywhere”

    Repeating your claim based on emotions doesn’t make it any more convincing the second time.

    “…eave room for the holy ghost like were at some catholic middle school dance.”

    Revenge of the spell checker!

    • Palm Tree said

      I would agree with all those that replied. There is nothing inherently wrong with people being engaged in sexual behavior. It is our culture and the taboo that religion has placed for centuries on what is a natural and normal thing to be practiced that has created an obsession out of sexuality. In other words if you want to know why sex is everywhere, even in your school hallways it would be better to ask Pope Benedict, than Ron Jeremy because it is not the Porn industry that is causing obsession.

  4. thresholdlurker said

    Here is how I want to talk about this: Why does this bother you? Really, deep down, what’s the root cause of your consternation?

    Let’s say I disagree with you. Am I “wrong” or is my opinion simply different from yours? This is a key point in the debate. What is your position of people who don’t follow your logic?

    Also, how would you stop this behavior?

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